Tranzmission
Tranzmission - Amplifying the trans & gender non-conforming voices of Meanjin/Brisbane and Beyond

Crushes, Chaos, & Trans Romance

Dating, Romance, Flirting & Intimacy in Trans & Gender Diverse Lives

Hosts: Ez (he/him) and Hazel (she/her)

In this episode Ez (he/him) and Hazel (she/her) explore dating, romance, flirting, and intimacy in trans and gender diverse lives. From navigating dating apps and disclosure, to building confidence, setting boundaries, and sharing practical tips for cis people dating trans partners, the conversation reflects the complexity and diversity of trans experiences. Also delving into conversations about bodies, surgeries, and terminology, as well as addressing issues such as fetishisation, communication in relationships, and the longevity of intimacy — including how connection can grow and evolve over time. Throughout, the discussion Ez and Hazel challenge traditional assumptions about desire and intimacy, and highlights the importance of communication, respect, and self-determination.

Additionally here are some recommended resources mentioned in this episode; Trans Sex by Kelvin Sparks, a practical guide for cis people and those new to dating trans partners; Love in a Fcked Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together* by Dean Spade, which examines relationships through an activist and non-traditional lens; Fucking Trans Women a Zine by Mira Bellwether, a widely regarded resource on trans feminine bodies and pleasure; eff-able: a spicy anthology of queer crip poetry, which centres disabled queer voices and desire; and the “Relationship Anarchy Smörgåsbord,” a framework for designing relationships based on individual values and needs. Together, these resources offer further insight into building relationships that are grounded in respect, communication, and authenticity.

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Timestamps and Links:

  • 00:00 - Acknowledgement of Country
  • 00:20 - Welcome to Tranzmission
  • 02:15 - 🏳️‍⚧️ Community News and Events - Links in Notes
  • 09:28 - 💘 Dating While Trans: The Realities
  • 16:12 - 💘 Dating While Trans: Preferences
  • 22:35 - 💘 Dating While Trans: Fetishisation
  • 27:00 - 💘 Dating While Trans: Disclosure
  • 32:12 - 🧠 Tips & Tricks for Dating Trans People
  • 34:30 - 🧠 Tips & Tricks: Communication and Terminology
  • 38:40 - 🧠 Tips & Tricks: Don’t Fetishise, Exoticise, Or Stereotype
  • 46:21 - ❤️ Intimacy, Bodies & Vulnerability: Redefining Sex Beyond Cisnormative Ideas
  • 54:26 - 🌈 Love, Joy & Community Care (Resources & Recommended Reading)

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Produced and recorded by Hazel and Ez at 4zzz in Fortitude Valley, Meanjin/Brisbane Australia on Turrabul and Jaggera Country and audio and cover image edited by Tobi for podcast distribution for Creative Broadcasters Limited.

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